Category Archives: Moving

How do you handle stress?

Lately, I’ve been under quite a bit of stress.

There’s my 40 hour work week, two classes a week for 3 hours each as well as an online course, assignments and studying for said courses. That adds up to over 60 hours, but that’s nothing new. I’ve been doing that for a year and a half now.

However, now that I’m moving, I’ve been dealing with an extra 10 hours or so a week dedicated to packing, figuring out logistics, downsizing my stuff, making decisions on what should be purchased first, etc. Everyone seems to have an opinion on how I should be doing things, which I haven’t necessarily been taking well.  I went away for the weekend because I couldn’t handle being at home. S**t got too real, quite honestly. Since I’m so focused on preparing for my life after July 15th, when I no longer have to answer to anyone, I’m finding the nit picking I suffer through and having to walk on egg shells in my own home is getting really old. That’s why I tend to go away on weekends, and why everything has to get done during the week. After the entire week at work with my family, staying at home would drive me up the wall. My stress levels skyrocket the second I walk in the door at night. I am literally more stressed out at home than I am at work or school. I know it’s hilarious that my last post was about appreciating them, but let me be clear- I do appreciate them for what they have done for me. I just don’t appreciate always being blamed initially for things that are not my fault, not being apologized to when they’re proven wrong, not being given credit for the things I do, and getting screamed at over absolutely nothing.

So, I had a meltdown on Friday, and took off. I was still simmering all weekend. When I got home last night, I went straight to my bedroom and cleaned for an hour straight. I did my laundry, cleaned up my bathroom, packed anything on the floor that was still without a box, emptied my closet of the clothes I won’t need before the move… everything I could find went somewhere. After I finally had nothing left to do, I felt good. REALLY good.

It’s been a longstanding joke that when something needs to be done around the house and I don’t feel like doing it, I’ll call one of my exes and they’ll piss me off so badly that the place is sparkling once I’m done with it. I don’t know whether I clean to purposely  forget what I’m mad at or if it’s that accomplishing something makes the pill go down easier, but either way, stress makes me really productive. When I’m stressed over a mistake at work, I take 15 minutes and clean my desk. When I have a fight, I rearrange my cosmetics “display” in my washroom. When a customer calls me just to complain, I get some homework done. It’s funny- in high school and university I used to have SERIOUS meltdowns where I would sob for half the day and be useless until the next morning. Now that I’m too busy to go MIA for 24 hours and I don’t have smoking to curb my stress anymore, I’ve noticed I just distract myself with something else. It may not even be healthy. I’m not sure whether I’m bottling, or handling frustration in a productive manner. Either way, it’s REALLY helping this month.

All I know is that I’m counting down the days before I can call my own shots, and tell everyone else to go to hell if they don’t like it- at home, not at work, of course.

Just 27 days to go.

How do you deal with stress?

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Money woes, or why I’m thankful for my family

While deciding how much money I need when I move into the new place, I slightly miscalculated, and as a result I have no money to live off of for the next couple of weeks.

Here’s what happened: I knew that I needed $437.50 for first and last, and an extra $300 for furniture and miscellaneous expenses around the apartment, so I planned out my payments and savings accordingly. Well, instead of starting the lease on July 15th like we asked, we’re paying pro-rated rent from the 15th to the 31st, and then the lease starts August 1st. So I need close to $1000 instead of the $750 I originally planned for. I get paid tomorrow, and my money is ALL already gone- it’s all allocated towards payments and savings. Ugh!!! However, it’s okay. The sky will not fall. I’m taken care of.

Thank the lord I’m not paying rent (yet at least) or worrying about having enough to eat. My family does a lot for me and always has. I don’t buy groceries, my mom bought me Nicorette when I couldn’t afford it after I quit smoking (13 full days now, whooo), I have a roof over my head, a job, a car to get to school, and an internet connection. I’m so grateful for everything I’m given, and I hope that I’ve made them proud so far. If I had spent all of my money on stupid stuff, I’d be ashamed to ask for help; but as it is, they know how hard I’m working to get out on my own, they’re proud of what I’ve accomplished with my money (from the little bits I’ve told them, anyway), and I know they’ll help me if I need it. The only thing my mom will not do for me is pay my rent (nor should she).

Most of all, I’m extremely thankful that when I ask my grandfather to buy me some bread and lunch meat for lunch next week because I can’t afford it, he’ll do it without batting an eyelash.

With family like that, I can’t ask for much more.

Well. I want more money. But who doesn’t.

Oh so close, and yet so far

It’s T-minus 34 days until we move into our apartment, and I’m still reeling as far as how much stuff there is to do. I’ve lived on my own once, while I was in university. It was an apartment style, so I have some kitchen stuff, but it wasn’t exactly a grown-up atmosphere. Our kitchen table was used more for beer pong than actual eating, and the furniture was already there so I have none left over. This time M and I are going to live like adults, and we’ve already started planning our decorating. However, we’re both on a seriously tight budget. I’m going blind into this whole experience, and my planning tendencies are kicking into overdrive lately. Luckily, my mom is helping me out a LOT. She’s giving me a dresser, a bed (with an actual headboard!), and she’s buying us a table and chairs, pictured below (and tried out in person at Ikea, and we love it).

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We’re allowed to paint and hang pictures, so we’ll be going with a beige for the common areas. I have no idea what I’ll do in my room yet. I was thinking of a lavender, but I don’t want to be painting every time I redecorate.

Our list of things we need to figure out in the next 34 days is as follows:

1. Make sure we do inventory and recheck our list so we have EVERYTHING we need.

2. Packing logistics (ugh).

3. How is food shopping split? Do we just buy our essentials together and go back later for whatever we want for ourselves?

4. Budgeting for food and making sure we save as much money on electricity as possible.

5. Getting paint and deciding when we’re doing that.

6. Since we move on a Sunday, figuring out if I can take the Monday off to help unpack and organize.

7. Figure out how mutual bills are paid.

This is on top of work, school, etc. Fun, fun, fun.

Is there anything else I’m forgetting that I’ll need to do? I’m so out of my element right now, it’s crazy.

Exciting New Development (that some of you might kick me for)

It turns out, I won’t be able to get my net worth to $5000 this year. It’ll have to be a two year thing.

Why? Because I’m moving out on my own.

I understand that savings are important- however, the internal factors that I was worried about with my company have lifted, I know I’m secure, and frankly it’s time for me to get out on my own and for my grandfather to get his guest-room back, especially since he might end up selling the house in the next year or so. I’d like to do this now of my own accord and have the time to find a place that’s right for me, rather than be scrambling and have to take what’s available.

It won’t be “on my own”, specifically- my friend M had to move out of her place because her roommates were violent and not conducive to her lifestyle as a student. She’s going to university in the city just east of where I live now, and we decided to get an apartment together. We have very similar lifestyles. Neither of us want people in and out of the apartment during the week, we’re both students, we pay our bills, and we’re both anal about keeping common areas clean but more lax about bedrooms. Just the way I like it- my kitchen is spotless but my room is a mess.

Since M was off school for a couple of weeks, she went hunting while I was at work and sent me photos of each place and information. She found an apartment in the area we wanted, for a price that worked well for us. We’ll even have a brand new fridge. I did the budgeting, and I can afford it. The rent is $875, so $437.50 a month for me. That’s less than what I spent on my credit card bills every month (roughly $600).We will only be paying hydro, which is easy to control to a degree, especially because the building’s managers pay for the heat. Anyways, we move in July 15th, so that’s why I’m paying the debt so aggressively. Since June 1st I’ve literally been on a cash diet of about $60 a pay after contributing to my savings for rent/furniture and paying my credit card; it’ll continue until I move in. All I can say is thank god that June is a 3 pay month. Instead of buying lunch every day, once a week I’ve been buying a loaf of bread and some lunch meat and leaving it in the fridge at work, so that I have NO excuse. The only things I have bought as a luxury were two books from Amazon (on sale for 30% off, no shipping costs, and paid off on the credit card immediately) that I’ve wanted to read since I heard about them. They were my presents to myself for my other triumph.

After a month long relapse, I have finally quit smoking for good and am 6 days smoke-free, on the patch to make sure I succeed this time, and I’m not missing it at all. I have much more energy, I sleep better (except when I fall asleep with the patch on- serious nightmares there), I smell better, I don’t wake up in the middle of the night hacking and struggling to breathe, and I’m not hemorrhaging money at $10 a day. My only really strong cravings are when I get really stressed, like in traffic or before tests, but that’s why I also have the nicotine gum. I don’t treat it as candy, but it’s there when I need it.

So, that’s what’s been going on for me! I’m really excited to be starting a new chapter of my life. What have you guys been up to?